Its not enough if you are very soft/kind with your wife/husband alone (Pun Intended). You need to be very kind, soft with your kids. It not only shows your affection to your kid(s) but will also teach them in an in-direct way that the kid should be kind with his friends relatives.
A very effective approach is sometimes referred to as 'Stop, look and listen'. If your kid needs to speak to you then stop whatever you're doing, look directly at the child and listen to what he or she has to say. Giving your children your attention in this manner sends a strong signal that you are interested in what they have to say and that you value their views, thoughts and opinions. (Thanks to Parenting for Dummies)
It not only helps the kid, but surely will help you when you wanted to say something to your kid, she/he responds in the same way you did.
At 30's you might not understand this, when you are in your late 70's and if your kid doesn't listen to you, You dont have to blame anyone other than yourself.
A very effective approach is sometimes referred to as 'Stop, look and listen'. If your kid needs to speak to you then stop whatever you're doing, look directly at the child and listen to what he or she has to say. Giving your children your attention in this manner sends a strong signal that you are interested in what they have to say and that you value their views, thoughts and opinions. (Thanks to Parenting for Dummies)
It not only helps the kid, but surely will help you when you wanted to say something to your kid, she/he responds in the same way you did.
At 30's you might not understand this, when you are in your late 70's and if your kid doesn't listen to you, You dont have to blame anyone other than yourself.
Good thought. But did you actually read Parenting for Dummies ?
ReplyDeleteHarini